The confusion, distress, and chaos of narcissistic abuse take a serious toll on the mind, body, and spirit.
You can get the support you need and deserve.
Why Assertive Communication, Nonviolent Communication Strategies, and Traditional Boundary Setting Skills Don't Work in Narcissistic Relationships (And Sometimes Make it Worse)
Due to the unempathic and transactional nature of those with narcissistic relational patterns, there is often an intentional ignoring of your needs, feelings, and boundaries that occurs on their part, so that they can get what they want.
Open communication and honesty about your limits, therefore, will not typically be met with respect and care as they would be in a healthy, mutually respectful relationship.
While there are many styles and types of narcissistic abuse, the core playbook of tactics used by narcissistic abusers is remarkably similar and predictable.
Once we become aware of the dynamics and functions of the tactics being used, we can begin to understand ourselves and the relationship in a different light.
We stop trying to utilize communication skills that only work in healthy relationships and instead start navigating these relationships in ways that protect our peace, health, and lives.
"The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do."
-Seth Godin
Having an experienced guide can be immensely useful as you navigate towards a path of peace, freedom, self-kindness, and healing.
I'm currently pursuing certification as a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician through a clinical program led by narcissistic abuse treatment expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula, and I'd be delighted to support you on your healing journey.
Narcissistic abuse can happen to anybody, and in any area of one's life.
Some of the following roles or settings encompass some of the more common situations in which narcissistic abuse may occur:
-Parents, siblings, or larger parts of family systems
-Friendships and sometimes friend groups
-Romantic relationships
-The workplace
-Academic environments
-Athletic or sports environments
-Churches and other spiritual and community organizations
Narcissistic relational patterns exist on a spectrum, with one end being characterized by varying degrees of emotional immaturity, thoughtlessness, self-centeredness, and selfishness. On the other end of the spectrum, there are more malignant, intentionally malevolent, exploitative, and sadistic types of behaviors.
Each narcissistic relationship will have a different flavor, different patterns, and different qualities to it.
Regardless of where the behaviors fall on the narcissism spectrum, the relational patterns employed by narcissists are harmful and ultimately hurt those with whom they are involved.
It can get better, and I can help.
Whether you can leave the relationship or not, you can get the support you need and deserve to understand the dynamics and mechanisms driving the cycle. This understanding can help you navigate it with new insights and skills, protecting more of your peace and mental and physical health.
I'd be delighted to work with you.
You're warmly invited to reach out at any time to discuss working together.